Thom Rainer listed on His blog
The nine ways gossip destroys a church are:
- It’s evil.
- It’s idolatrous.
- It’s self-centered.
- It’s divisive.
- It’s often deceptive.
- It harms reputations.
- It destroys trust.
- It indicates hypocrisy in the church.
- It risks God’s judgment
Gossip is a destroyer of unity in the church. It can begin as a sampled seed and grow into a huge mustard plant. Many times we say things that we never intend to start a fire with, yet it happens. Words are said, and the forrest fire begins. It is difficult not to gossip because we have become so accustomed to wanting the “latest scoop” about the “latest juice.”
The next time you want to spread a little information on behalf of someone, don’t. Use your God instincts and choose the high road. Think about the source you received your information from before you begin that spark that leads to destruction.
Stay in the Light, 1 John 1:7,
(Picture of FBC Del Rio, Texas)
Today’s post consists of 14 reasons for church unity breakdown. This is from Thom Rainer’s blog
I pray that you are part of the solution at your church instead of part of the problem.
- Gossip. Church members talk about one another instead of talking to one another. Paul calls church members who gossip people “filled with all unrighteousness” (Romans 1:29, HCSB).
- Actions cloaked in darkness. I recently heard of a church personnel committee and a few church staff members who worked in darkness to fire a pastor without ever meeting with him first or giving him reasons for his dismissal. Then they refused to respond to church members who were asking questions.
- Failure to confront church bullies. Some church members seek power in a church they can’t get elsewhere. They are devious and dangerous. They must be courageously confronted.
- Self-serving church members. Some church members insist on getting their way for everything from worship style to the order of the worship service. Biblical church membership, however, is selfless and more concerned about others.
- Lack of prayer. A church that does not pray together is likely to fragment into special interest groups.
- Fear of confrontation. Too many church members would rather sweep problems under the rug than deal with them. I know of one church where two deacons were known to be having affairs. No one wanted to deal with it.
- Adopting the hypercritical spirit of culture. This reality is especially true in blogs and social media. I’ve seen many pastors attacked publicly on Twitter and Facebook.
- Low expectations. Many churches have no clear guidelines on what it means to be a part of the body of Christ. If you expect little from members, that’s exactly what you’ll get. And some of them will use their idle time to gossip, criticize, and tear down.
- No church discipline. The majority of churches with which I have familiarity have no process for church discipline, or they have a process in place in theory only.
- Churches known more for what they are against rather than what they are for. This negativity becomes pervasive in the congregation and destroys church unity.
- Fear of losing members. I am familiar with one church plagued by a spirit of divisiveness by one particular member. No members have confronted him because they don’t want to lose one of the biggest givers in the church.
- Failure to be evangelistic. I have never known a church member who is both evangelistic and divisive.
- Power groups. Sometimes the bullies in the church get allies to form power groups. They may be informal groups, or they can be formal groups like elders, deacons, staff, or personnel committees.
- The silent and fearful majority. One church member said it is not always good to know the truth. Such a statement is unbiblical and symptomatic of members who let evil exist because they are afraid to confront it.
One of the greatest problems in our churches is the breakdown of church unity. It is insidious, debilitating, and destructive.
Paul urged us “to walk worthy of the calling you have received, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, accepting one another in love, diligently keep the unity of the Spirit with the peace that binds us” (Ephesians 4: 1-3, HCSB).
Jesus said in John 13:35: “By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Stay in the Light, 1 John 1:7,